If you think about how you want your relationship with your soon-to-be ex will be after your divorce compared to how it is right now, chances are that you may be thinking that there is no way on earth that it will be amicable and productive. After all, the emotional scars may still be fresh and you may believe that he or she is so arrogant and self-centered that reasoning with them is all but impossible.
You may be right…for now, but even the most self absorbed people have a day of reckoning that requires them to look at themselves in the mirror and reexamine their priorities. When they do this, the way they treat people (especially exes) may just change.
If you think this is merely a pipe dream, consider how Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson had to come to grips with his depression after his divorce. He explained in a HuffingtonPost.com article that he had to “man up” and be accountable with the mess that he was in with regard to his relationships. Essentially, the divorce had a special way of curing the arrogance that he had developed after years of success in Hollywood.
After “getting over himself,” he still works with his ex-wife, who manages virtually every aspect of his professional career. It’s no wonder that he is one of the most bankable stars in Hollywood. Dwayne and his ex still parent their teenage daughter together.
So if you are convinced that you will never be able to establish a fruitful co-parenting relationship with your ex, chances are that you will need time and patience (on yours and their part) to make things work.
If you have questions about how to make co-parenting work, an experienced family law attorney can advise you.